Wise words describing how I used to be, until I realized the truth that holding it in or punishing the other person by my own overeating or lack of self care was like my drinking the poison and expecting the other person to be affected by it. One of my pat phrases is to do what I can and let go of what I can't. Also never wrestle with a pig- you get muddy and the pig enjoys it.

Luckily this one is not an issue for me.

My goal of 2018 was to not get even by using food to let myself go and be unattractive. I was actually hurting myself and not my husband and I had to deal with looking like I do. I managed to let that be the old me.

You have made some wonderful progress under indescribably difficult circumstances, Tyme4me.